Fathers.................Absent, barely there, paying child support, etc.

In whatever capacity it is that you are fulfilling you role as "daddy", this question is for you?

If there was one thing you would want your child to say about you when you were gone, what would it be and why?

Let me know!!!!!

Its Time...............

I have written in a previous post that it is time to get serious about my Father's business. I have received confirmation in more ways than one since I have written that post. So, this post is me getting serious about my Father's business and His plan for my life. I  have always found my foundation of faith to be in Jesus Christ because without Him nothing is possible but with Him all things are possible. I began this blog because I have a genuine passion for women who are single mothers but I have a soft spot for those who are single mothers to boys. Those of you who know me would say that I have that soft spot because I am a single mother to a wonderful son. However, that is not the case. My love for single mothers raisng sons is because I want to see the men who are our future be raised to be the men that God needs them to be. There are so many women who are single mothers to young men because the men who fathered these sons are not (or may not have been taught) being the men that God needs them to be. We (women) have had to become independent which made us less dependent on the one who holds it all in His hands. I am not indicating that we are not supposed to be independent and self-sufficient but I am saying that we should not have to.We should not have to be both mother and father because God created both man and woman for a purpose. We (women) are a strong creation and at times we don't recognize our own strength (I am talking to me first). God may have made us from man for man but not to be "the man". When did the woman become the head of the household? When did the woman become the provider? When did the woman become the protector? Now, before I go any further I am going to say this: Not all the men in the world are lacking. So, I give praise when praise is due to the men who are taking care of their responsibilities as a father and the head of the household. Enough digression, back to the heart of the matter. Men we (women) need you and you need to know that but you also need to know that a lot of us have lost our femininty because of the masculinity we had to carry.  I am raising my son to understand that his household should not consist of only mommy (unless it was God's will). Our young men coming up n the areas of where I live need postive males in their lives when negativity is coming at them from every angle. Boys in general need their fathers. Let me be clear that paying child support does not make you a father.......who would have thought???? We (women) can only do so much before it becomes detrimental for the father to step into the boys' life and take the wheel....So, ladies and gentlemen let's make our future shine above our past and present by getting these upcoming men the tools they need to succed in all facets of their lives. Let's break the cycle of imprisonment............

Gone Too Soon........

Today God has called two beautiful angels home to glory with Him........

Never letting the world or its circumstances stop her
In the midst of the rain she found the sun
Eager to pave the way for her children
She always knew what had to be done
Having only been here for a short while she
Accomplished many things that would better the life of her and her family.

Many things were weighing on her but
In spite of it all she kept good spirits and a smile. She
Dared life to challenge her and laughed at anyone who
Doubted her. So, who would have thought that we would be
Left to remember her and her baby girl (Aniya). We know that she would have preferred it be her before
Either of her children. But God had other plans. Her baby boy (Rajeev) remains
To remind us all of the great things she has done. God has him covered and He will carry him
On through this storm. The storm will be rough (Rajeev) but it will get better and His grace is sufficent.
Now and forever we remember the blessed life of Niesha Middleton. Rajeev, she loves you always!!!

R.I.P Niesha and Aniya...My prayers and blessing are with your family as this storms engulfs them!!!

Clumsy Me

Hello World,

On June 24 I fell down the steps of my home and tore the ligaments in my right ankle. I am now at home until the 11th of July so that I may get some rest and stay off of my foot. On anther note I am still trying to figure me out and determine where I want to be before my 30th birthday. Well I just wanted to check in. I will get back in a minute. Until then, keep praying and keep it moving.

The Inside

Tonight I am writing from a place that I haven't been in a little while, my inner me. I am working on my power point presentation on Artificial Intelligence but that isn't where my mind is. My mind is on me and what I want. I was talking with a co-worker today and I asked what did he want. His initial response was "I don't know" but I as I continued to ask the same question he thought about it. He wrote his thoughts of what he wanted down and they were solid. So, as I read his list I began to go over my list in my head.  Needless to say I began to immediately revise the "want" list. On my want list are a few things that I could do without so they have been moved over to the "need' list. Once I started rearranging things I began to wonder why my "needs" outweighed "my wants"(not by much but enough) to make me step back and re-evaluate His plan for my life. Then it came to me, the anwer to my question. I came to the realization that all my needs can be placed in the hands of my God and all will be alright so long as I leave them there with Him. So, tonight I leave all my pains, worries, heartaches, and stresses at the feet of my Father becasue I know that He will take care of me.

Hello To All

Hello everyone just checkin in. I have been a bit busy with my school work. Have to keep the grades up.

A Beautiful Life

As u all know my aunt has recently passed. She was the most humble woman I know. I miss her simply said. The time that I was able to spend with her meant more to me than she will ever know. We lived 3 states apart but she was always just a phone call away. I didn't call her as often as I should have and I didnt visit as often as I should have and for that I will carry regret. She loved everyone she met as if they were family because to her family was all u needed to get by. Her smile lit up the world and that pound cake made u wanna hurt somebody. Whatever she put her hands on was infused with nothing but pure love. Well, God needed a perfect angel for His choir and a perfect angel is who He called home when He called my aunt Sylvia home. A beautiful life she had that was filled with love. She loved her husband like I have never seen love before and she loved her daughter the same. I love u Aunt Sylvia and I will miss u forever but I will be never forget u because I will carry u in my heart always. Kiss ur brother (my grandfather) for me and let him know that I will meet him when I get there but right now I still have work to do.

What Do You DO When..........

          I haven't been on in a few days and I apologize for that. There have been things going on and I have needed some time to myself. I am back now to share what I have been dealing with. Situations have a way of making you realize things about yourself that you would have never known had you not gone through the situation. While in my situations I asked myself one question...I said "Self" and my self said "Yes'' and I said "What do you do when you don't know what else to do?" Before myself could respond, I said "I will pray because prayer changes things." If prayer doesn't change the situation, it will change you in the situation. The situation will remain the situation but when you pray it will change your reaction and role in the situation. Now, before I could even think about praying my initial reaction was to go postal and do many things that Jesus may have thought about but would never act out...many of you know that things that I am talking about. Then I thought: why put myself through the aggravation. That is when I decided to pray and wait for my answer.
          Now, the next situation is far worse for me then the one before. Thursday morning (May 12) I received a phone call from my cousin to learn that my aunt had passed away. My question now is "What do you do when you really don't know what to do?" My immediate, almost, response was to pray harder. I didn't pray for the comfort of myself or my family who had just lost one of the most amazing women I know. I prayed for the comfort of the deceased. I prayed that she knew who Jesus was (which I know she did) and I prayed that she was comfortable when He called her home. Then I prayed for the comfort of her husband and daughter who would be completely lost without her. Although I sent my prayers up, I could not comprehend that my aunt was no longer here and even today I still can't believe that she is gone. After receiving the phone call I needed to leave work because I just couldn't wrap my mind around the information that I had just received. Now, I am preparing to travel to the burial services of my beloved aunt. I have been holding on pretty well but I know that once I see my cousin and my uncle it will all rush over me like a raging storm.

    The point of my post today is to keep prayer in the mix of all that you do. When your raising your son and you are feeling overwhlemed with all that it entails, bow your head and pray. When it seems as if life is throwing you more curve balls than you can handle, fall on your knees and pray. When all that could go wrong has gone wrong and it contines to spiral downhill, throw yourself at his mercy in prayer. when things have been worked out for the moment and all is well, keep praying. Prayer changes things.

Im Apologize for Letting It All Go

Let me apologize for venting like that in my previous post..my son's father just pushes me to the limit at times. So, I said that I was here to help so let me do just that. How was everyone's day today? Let me present you with a question to think about....Which would you prefer from the father for your child's benefit and why? A.) time with your child or  B.) money? Before you answer I am going to ask that you put aside the feelings (negative or positive) you have for the father and completely think about what would be best for the child.  Leave your comments and lets get a discussion going based on your responses.

Today Its Personal

Hello Everyone...today is mother's day and the father of my child did not have the decency to wish me a Happy Mother's Day..how low is that? I can understand any negative feelings he may have toward me but why is it so hard for him to understand that our relationship has nothing to do with our son. Regardless of your feelings toward me, don't make my son pay for it because he does not deserve to be treated that way. My son is more than 300 dollars a week. He didn't ask for us to be his parents but it is what it is. I try not to point the finger at the man but they make it impossible for me not to. What is it about being a father to your child that terrifies them to the point where they just decide that they will not be the father that they are supposed to be? That is another thing that pisses me off...why do they get options...to be a father or not? I am and will always be a mother whether I want the responsibility or not. There is no way I can look at my son and make the sane decision that I don't want to be his mother and just throw my hands up. That is incredibly ridiculous. Women we have to demand more than just financial support for our growing men. They need so much more than that.  I am so pissed off right now that I am going to stop writing before I start rambling.................I definitely need to do some serious talking to my Lord because I just wished death on my son's father. So until we meet again, keep praying, stay encouraged, and keep it moving..................

Welcome and Thank You

Welcome to On The Wings of the Mothers: A Man Is Raised.  I am a single woman who is raising a son as a single mother. I am in the premature stages of developing a program that I have named "On The Wings of the Mothers: A Man is Raised." The basis of my program will be to encourage women who are raising Christian sons as a single mother to stay encouraged. I will provide the following services for the mothers and the fathers: counseling, financial planning, play dates/after school activities, Bible study, and weekly prayer meetings just to name a few. I am inviting the fathers to join in because they may be able to gain insight as to how hard it is to be a single mother raising a man. My passion for the welfare of children is what has motivated me to start this program. I am raising a son but the fact that I am a single mother with an inactive father only added fuel to the fire of my passion. I have seen so many promising young men get involved in the wrong things because the mothers that were raising them felt as if they had done all that they could do. They had no one to talk to and no one to listen to them without placing judgement. I definitely understand the feeling. That is why I am here. I want to give those women who have reached the breaking point the strength to keep going because we (the mothers) are all these men have. We have to continue to strengthen our backs to continue to carry these boys as they become men. So, I thank you for visiting my blog and my prayer is that together we can make a difference in the lives of the men that we are raising on our own.